Five top tips for getting what you deserve from a divorce

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Going through a divorce can be a stressful time. However, this does not have to be inevitable. Continue reading for our top tips on how you can get what you deserve from a divorce.

  • Be 100% certain

The number of people who go through a divorce only to be reconciled with their ex-husband or wife several months later is astounding. Our first top tip is to make sure that you are absolutely certain that you want to go through with a divorce. If you and your spouse haven’t been through counselling, consider speaking to an expert to see if the rift can be healed. Sometimes it may be that a little time and space is needed to evaluate what you both want from one another. Of course, nothing is saying that counselling or time will change your minds, but it can help with closure if you know that you have at least tried. 

  • Think of the children

It can be easy to be somewhat selfish when struggling with emotions. Divorce is a difficult time for all parties involved, for the children, possibly more than anyone else. Every step of the separation, you must think of the children. They deserve to be taken into account to ensure their needs are met. Furthermore, discussing sensitive matters in front of them should be avoided. Raised voices and adult matters are not appropriate and can put the emotional welfare of your offspring at risk.

  • Do not discuss the divorce on social media

Discussing issues relating to your divorce on social media, such as Facebook, can be harmful and somewhat detrimental. If you say anything libelous or even anything seemingly innocent but which could be taken out of context, this may be used against you. Airing your laundry in public is never a good idea, but having it written down is even worse. Be sure to speak to your friends and family members face to face if you need to get anything off your chest. 

  • Employ the services of a great lawyer

A good lawyer will help you do well out of a divorce; a great lawyer can help you get the best. Always do your research beforehand. It may be worth speaking to friends or family members who have been through a similar process as they could recommend someone. Whoever, you choose, many do offer a free initial consultation. Be sure to prepare yourself thoroughly before the initial meeting and write a list of questions to ask a divorce lawyer

  • Be realistic

Expecting to take all of your ex-husband’s expensive possessions is not only unrealistic, but it is also greedy. Of course, if your spouse has done something unforgivable, it is natural to want to seek revenge. However, sacrificing your own good nature and becoming somewhat of a monster is unnecessary, and in the long run, you will be ashamed of this behaviour. Work out a reasonable amount that you need to support yourself and the children. 

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